Side sleeper? How to choose a pillow that fits your neck and shoulder
If you keep folding your pillow, stacking two, or tucking a hand under your head, the shape may not suit the way you sleep. Here is what to look for, and one contour pillow that is worth a closer look.
Why pillow shape matters
Side sleepers often prefer a pillow with enough height to fill the space between the shoulder and head. Back sleepers may prefer a lower center. Pillow height can affect how a pillow feels in different sleeping positions, which is why one shape may not suit everyone.
This guide provides general information about pillows and sleeping positions. It is not medical advice.
Which sleeper are you?
- Side sleepers: you may prefer enough height to fill the shoulder gap, plus room for your top arm.
- Back sleepers: you may prefer a lower center.
- Switch during the night: you need a shape that works in both positions.
Pillow types compared
Not every pillow suits every sleeper. This quick comparison covers the main types and who each one tends to fit.
| Type | Feel | Often suits | Watch out for |
|---|---|---|---|
| Standard polyester or down-alternative | Soft and fluffy | Stomach sleepers, or anyone who likes to bunch the pillow | Flattens over time and needs fluffing |
| Flat memory foam | Slow-sinking, holds its shape | Back sleepers | Can feel warm, and may not fill the shoulder gap for side sleepers |
| Contoured memory foam | Shaped, with raised edges | Side and back sleepers who prefer a more structured shape | Takes a few nights to get used to; often too high for stomach sleepers |
| Latex | Bouncy and responsive | People who want a cooler, springier feel | Costs more, and is not for latex allergies |
| Adjustable fill (shredded foam or buckwheat) | Height you can change | People who want to fine-tune the height | Heavier; buckwheat can be noisy |
A simple height check you can do tonight
You can check your current pillow in a few minutes:
- Lie down in your usual sleeping position.
- Ask someone to take a photo from behind, or prop your phone up to record a few seconds.
Look at how the pillow sits under your head in your usual sleeping position. If it feels too low or too high, you may want to compare a different pillow height.
If you switch between your side and your back, look for a shape that works in both positions, rather than fixing one.
What to look for in a contour pillow
- Two heights: a higher edge for side sleeping and a lower center for the back.
- Memory foam designed to maintain its shape during use.
- A shape that leaves room for your arm.
- A breathable, removable cover that is easy to clean.
- A real trial period, because a new shape can take a few nights to get used to.
One option worth a look: Derila Ergo
Derila Ergo is a butterfly-shaped memory foam pillow. The details below come from the manufacturer’s product page; we have not tested it ourselves.
- Side wings designed for side and back sleeping
- A shoulder arch built into the pillow shape
- A contoured central section
- An arm support area, plus a gap for headphones
- Memory foam with a breathable design and a zippered cover
- Size 21.2 x 14.1 in (54 x 36 cm), with a 60-day return window (see the seller's policy)
What we like
- Shaped for both side and back sleepers
- Space for your arm
- 60-day return window
- A 4.5 average rating shown on the seller's page (seller-reported)
Keep in mind
- A contoured shape feels different at first; the manufacturer suggests about 5 to 7 nights
- Costs more than a basic pillow
- Shipping costs are not refunded, and returns need the seller's authorization first
- Check that your pillowcase fits the size
Who this may suit
- Side sleepers who tuck an arm under the pillow
- Back sleepers who prefer a lower center section
- Anyone replacing a flat or lumpy pillow
Who may want to skip it
Stomach sleepers, people who like a soft pillow they can bunch up, and anyone who does not like a firmer, shaped feel may be happier with a low, soft pillow instead.
At the time of writing, one pillow starts at $59.99, with 2-pack and 4-pack options. The seller’s page advertises a promotional discount (shown as 75% off its list price). Promotions can change, and shipping and local taxes may apply, so check the total at checkout.
Returns: the seller offers a 60-day window from delivery. You contact their support team first for an authorization, and shipping costs are not refundable.
Common questions
A contoured pillow may feel different from a traditional pillow. The manufacturer suggests allowing 5 to 7 nights to adjust to the shape.
The seller offers a 60-day return window from delivery. Contact their support team first to request a return authorization. Shipping costs are not refundable, so read the seller’s return policy before you order.
The cover has a zipper, as shown in the product photos. Check the seller’s care instructions before washing.
This page is an independent guide and is not the official website of the product’s manufacturer, nor is it endorsed by them. Product details are taken from the seller’s published information and may change.